For the healthiest relationships, float the bed in the room, in command position, with your headboard on a solid wall. You want to access your bed from all sides. Like these two examples to the right.
If your bed is pushed against a wall, I invite you to move it. If you can. Even if you create a tiny space for a night stand, or a plant stand, between the wall and the bed, it will make all the diference in your relationship, and in your own life. I imagine you will feel like you can take the deepest breath you have taken in a long time.